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Conversation On The Edge Of Silence


Experience Conversations on the Edge of Silence (COTEOS) one-to-one & in small groups. 

For helping professionals and leaders, try individual and group Supervision. 

Want to learn more? A short Workshop may be for you!


Check out our in-person retreats for individuals and for groups. And our longer introductory and advanced seminars.

Conversations on the Edge of Silence

A fresh, new way to support change, learning, and growth among individuals, couples, groups, organizations, and communities. 

Through this gentle process, for individuals and couples, you can

  • Enjoy inner growth and develop as a whole person
  • Learn to reflect more deeply on the meaning of your experience and understand it in new ways
  • Tune into the key underlying patterns present in your life and support their unfolding in a gentle and natural way
  • Recognize and better navigate important turning points in your life
  • Enhance relationship by exploring and opening to ‘Radical Intimacy’
  • Know yourself better and awaken to your true nature

Generative Dialogue in Groups

Conversations on the Edge of Silence provide a new way for groups and communities to communicate effectively and develop cohesion. Through Conversations on the Edge of Silence, we enjoy a quality of exchange that is inherently creative – a ‘Generative Dialogue’.  In this shared process,

  • We enliven a highly powerful field of ‘collective intelligence’, that is much more than ‘the sum of the parts’
  • As our collective functioning becomes more coherent and cohesive, critical differences are faced and explored honestly, deepening transparency and trust
  • Valuable insights into ourselves and each other appear, further deepening our relationships and capacity to collaborate effectively
  • Opening to our common source, the ‘heart of the matter’ crystallizes, and important and unexpected solutions and opportunities emerge
  • Meanwhile, our capacity for relational presence – to be sensitive to group process and contribute authentically to individual and group unfolding in practical and positive ways – grows

Our Approach

Neither traditional coaching, counselling, nor therapy, Conversations on the Edge of Silence are grounded in a deep connection between us.

Our approach is holistic. We attend to the way expression in words is reflected in the body. We listen with mind and heart to the whole person. We tune in to what is expressed on the surface and to the deeper currents implicit in it.

As we truly listen to each other and open to the common ground we share with all living things, and with nature as a whole, what is essential mysteriously emerges and unfolds naturally. 



Our fluid conversational COTEOS approach emerged from extensive research over decades exploring and updating connecting life patterns and defining assumptions about Self and World with individuals and groups through the process of ‘Re•Patterning’. Re•Patterning offers a particularly focused and intense Conversation on the Edge of Silence.


Conversations on the Edge of Silence involve more than just talking. Our dialogue is embodied and inevitably touches the unfolding and expression of inner energy. Sessions of innerdance support Generative Dialogue by freeing our vital energy, which opens the bodymind to deeper insight, understanding, and to share what we receive.


Experiential Sessions

You can experience the benefits of Conversations on the Edge of Silence with Generative Dialogue in sessions for individuals, for couples, and for groups and teams. Such sessions are available in person and on-line.

Typically, we offer 1-hour sessions for individuals and somewhat longer sessions (1.5-3 hours) for couples, groups, and teams.
Sessions of Re•Patterning and innerdance typically take 2.5–3 hours.

Taster Workshops

If you want to learn more about the nature of Conversations on the Edge of Silence and Generative Dialogue and their applications in a range of contexts, we offer a number of short three-hour workshops introducing this approach.

We can offer these workshops in your location to introduce the COTEOS approach.


We also offer longer workshops and retreats for those who want to take time out, for a restful break with a focus on personal reflection and growth. These retreat-workshops can be taken alone or in a group. 

In these retreat-workshops, Conversations on the Edge of Silence and Generative Dialogue support personal and shared growth and unfolding.

If you are a member of the helping professions – a coach, counsellor, therapist, social worker, or consultant, facilitator, or team leader – and want to learn more about Conversations on the Edge of Silence and Generative Dialogue, we have a range of workshops available for you on request.

Upcoming Events

You may also join one of our scheduled events, whether a short presentation or longer programme, whether introductory or advanced, either at Nirarta or in other parts of the world.

Non-Dual Awareness, Foundation to the Helping Relationship: Conversations on the Edge of Silence

A five-day residential workshop-retreat in the hills of East Bali for both aspiring and experienced therapists, counsellors, and coaches. This 30-hour workshop will radically enhance the quality of your work with clients in powerful, gentle, and profound 'Conversations on the Edge of Silence'. Participants will deepen their own embodiment of non-dual awareness, while enlivening this liberating backdrop to experience in the relational field. We will learn how to situate client outcomes and challenges in ways of thinking and feeling that naturally resolve themselves as we see through them to the field of pure awareness in which ultimately all experience is reflected. Location: Nirarta Centre for Living Awareness, Sidemen, Bali Date: 9 – 15 March 2023
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If you are interested in reading more, we have a range of articles and longer publications about our work. A number of articles about Conversations on the Edge of Silence and related topics can be accessed here.

We also feature a number of short videos and interviews.

Conversations on the Edge of Silence – Beginnings

Reflections on our first Conversations on the Edge of Silence programme, Yasnopole Ecopark, 22-24 October 2016 Our first 3-day Conversations on the Edge of Silence programme held in the new
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Creating Coherent Teams

Creating Coherent Teams Introducing the Structural Coherence Model The article introduces some of the foundational elements central to  ‘Generative Dialogue’. Generative Dialogue offers a pathway to, and a modus operandi
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Conversations on the Edge of Silence I

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Resonance in Coaching and Leadership

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The Way of Unfolding

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About us

Conversations On the Edge of Silence and Generative Dialogue were developed in the current form by Peter Wrycza, PhD, a coach, consultant, and trainer from the United Kingdom, currently based at the Nirarta Centre, the retreat he founded in East Bali.

Conversations on the Edge of Silence are the fruit of a life-time of reflection on the nature of change and development in individuals and groups – and how such change and growth intersects with the unfolding of that profoundly creative awareness and intelligence latent within us all and within all things.


‘One of the most profound experiences I have had as a coach. Transformed my practice.’
DK, Sofia
Silence is the only state that can reach subconscious treasure and illuminate hidden precious jewels. In silence, the essential is manifested. Peter is a master of connecting spirituality with everyday life in a very natural way.
LP, Bulgaria
It was so rewarding to observe and be immersed in Peter’s deep and beautiful work. The method is really transformational and life-changing. Felt lots of love and warmth all along.
BM, Ukraine




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